Personal Growth Cafe

February 28, 2018January 5, 2018

Six Tips To Help You Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be

Dr. Joe Vitale, motivational speaker and author, often says: “the fastest way to get where you want is to be happy with where you are.”

Believe it or not, this mindset works! It may take some changes and soul searching on your part, but in the end, it’ll be more than worth it to adopt this positive mentality.

While you should strive to make your dreams come true, concentrate, also, on yourself and your journey.

When you spend less time wishing things were different and more time accepting what you’ve got, you’ve already found a sense of peace and happiness right there.

Here are some tips that can help you become who you want to be right now:

1. Feel gratitude. When you concentrate on the big picture, it’s easier to exhibit feelings of gratitude.

When you’re grateful, you remain positive and appreciative of every joyful moment in life.

Sometimes people get too caught up in a sense of entitlement, which leads to negative feelings.

Concentrating on gratitude, instead, will get you where you desire.

2. Be optimistic. Some say that life is all about optimism.

And it’s true! An optimistic attitude is one of the few things you need to succeed.

If you’re trying to achieve a concrete goal, optimism will help you accomplish it.

If you’re trying to change your mindset, optimism will make the task easier.

Optimism can be the driving force that keeps you going.

3. Exhibit the traits you desire. It was Gandhi who said that you should be the change you want to see in the world.

With these wise words in mind, you can replace wanting with some bold action.

With some persistence and perseverance, you can make it happen.

4. Adopt a prosperous mindset. Take a moment to determine what prosperity means to you.

Are you hoping for money, a fulfilling career, or a relationship that lasts a lifetime?

Know what you want, then adopt the right mindset.

Once you do, you’ve then set yourself in the right direction toward your goals.

5. Find the silver lining. As you go through life, you will no doubt realize that things are not always going to go your way.

But even in tough times you need to keep your chin up.

Instead of allowing negativity to consume your life, seek out the silver lining.

This fresh attitude can be the difference between being held hostage and achieving your goals.

6. Take small steps. When the place you’re going seems far away and unachievable, it’s important to break it down into small steps.

Give yourself an achievable goal with a realistic time frame.

Break that one down into smaller goals.

When you avoid getting overwhelmed, you’ll gain the confidence to persevere.

You’re Already There

It’s a good idea to practice one of these tips at a time until you’ve incorporated them into your life.

Perhaps you can spend a week perfecting one strategy and, then the next week, add another one to your repertoire while continuing with the first one.

Soon enough, you’ll be a natural at all of them!

Once you choose a powerful and positive mindset, you’ll find that you’ve already achieved much of what you want.

Just remember: You already have the traits, mindset, and lifestyle you desire, and you know that success is inevitable, but only when you have the will to break through the obstacles in your mind!

How are you moving forward and becoming a better person everyday?

What are you doing today that contributes to achieving your goals?

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February 27, 2018January 5, 2018

My desire to succeed is more powerful than disappointment.

February 27, 2018January 5, 2018

Seven No-Worry Ways of Overcoming Shyness

There’s a distinct difference between being quiet and being shy.

When you’re quiet, you know you have the option to speak, but you just choose not to do so.

But when you’re shy, you’re plagued by discomfort, worry, or even anxiety in social situations.

No matter how shy you think you are, there are ways to train yourself to overcome this barrier.

While you won’t turn into a social butterfly overnight, you can become a more confident person.

Another benefit of overcoming your shyness is that, without that timidity, you tend to take advantage of new opportunities that come your way.

These tips and tricks will help you conquer shyness:

1. Accept your personality. It’s truly important for you to accept yourself for the person that you are.

You can never be anyone but you. If you’re a quiet person from time to time, so be it.

There is just as much beauty in the personality of a quiet person as there is in an outgoing person.

2. Put yourself out there. When you’re shy, you’re more likely to avoid social situations altogether.

This only makes the problem worse.

If you make the effort to participate, you’ll become more comfortable in every social gathering.

Take small steps, but take action to step out of your comfort zone.

3. Avoid running away. Even if you’re feeling especially awkward and anxiety ridden, get through the situation as best as you can.

Afterwards, you can evaluate what you went through so you can grow from it.

Ask yourself why you felt the way you did and see if you can correct the problem for next time.

4. Learn to relax. When you’re feeling shy, your mind begins to race.

You might be thinking about all the things that can go wrong and you’ll find it impossible to relax.

Instead of thinking about what might happen, concentrate on the present and on what actually is.

If you begin to panic, use relaxation and breathing techniques to calm yourself down.

5. Practice your social skills. If you’re shy in social situations, try to practice your communication and social skills in non-threatening environments, such as with family or close friends.

This will take away some of the scary “unknowns” that might be causing you to be afraid.

6. Use visualizations. Visualizations can be very powerful.

They can help you relax and get past the anxiety associated with shyness.

Close your eyes and think about yourself in a situation where you’d normally feel shy or panicky.

Instead of feeling overwhelmed with negative emotions, visualize yourself as completely confident and happy.

7. Focus on someone else. Place all of your focus on the person you’re sharing a conversation with.

Really listen to what they’re saying. If your energy is focused away from how you feel, you’ll be less likely to be overtaken with the feelings of shyness.

It may also help you to encourage the other person to do more of the talking.

Use open-ended questions where they can launch into a whole story or explanation instead of just answering yes or no questions.

Shyness is a combination of fears and feelings that are reinforced by habits.

Use these strategies to help you change your habits and your feelings of shyness will dissipate along with the old habits!

How can shyness hinder you from fully enjoying life?

How can you overcome your shyness?

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February 27, 2018February 27, 2018

If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it. – Jesse Jackson

February 26, 2018January 5, 2018

Eight Tips to Create a More Loving Relationship

Your relationship with your partner has the potential to be the most fulfilling experience in your life.

However, there are snags that can happen at every step of the way.

No one ever said that relationships were easy!

The good news is that if you stay proactive, you can foster a loving relationship no matter how many weeks or years you’ve been together.

When you create a more loving relationship, you make both you and your partner happy. You won’t find much better than that!

Here are some tips for creating a more loving relationship:

1. Show your gratitude. If you love your partner very much, than you’re obviously grateful for them.

However, you need to learn to express your inner feelings.

Your partner needs to know that you’re grateful. It shouldn’t be something that goes unsaid.

You can show gratitude by being more open in your conversations or by taking loving actions by buying gifts or suggesting ideas for quality time.

Also, remember the words: “Thank you!”

2. Incorporate more fun into the relationship.

You two may have separate ideas of what fun is, but try doing things together that you both enjoy.

It doesn’t have to be anything big and extravagant, just try to find something simple, yet exciting.

The key is to do something where you both won’t know exactly what to expect.

This adds that “special spice” to the relationship and helps stave off boredom.

3. Go out of your way. Yes, going out of your way for your partner may take some extra work, but it’ll be worth it!

Decide to make a grand gesture for your partner.

Do this out of the blue and your partner will really see that you care.

For example, you could throw them a party or take care of something that you know they don’t like doing.

4. Do activities they want to do. By making the sacrifice to do something you’re not all that interested in, it’ll make your partner feel loved and honored.

Of course, there’ll be interests you share, but make it a point to join in for an activity they really enjoy more than you do.

If your partner has always wanted to go ballroom dancing with you, perhaps it’s time to bite the bullet and go through with it.

5. Keep their needs in mind. As the years go by, it’s so easy to fall into patterns and restricted comfort zones, but you mustn’t forget about your partner’s needs.

If they enjoy an extra hug every once in awhile, go give them a hug.

If they like to talk about feelings and plans, sit with them and talk.

6. Say: “I love you” regularly. It seems that you can never say these three simple words enough.

Say it, text it, email it, record it, show it.

Do what you have to just to remind your partner of your true feelings.

This little phrase actually helps communication, lightens the mood, and fosters a more loving relationship for many years to come.

7. Listen actively. While it’s important to express your own feelings, it’s also critical that you truly listen to your partner’s feelings.

When you actively listen, you’ll begin to understand your partner in a new, deeper way.

They’ll also feel loved because they’ll see you being attentive and they’ll feel like their thoughts and feelings matter.

8. Support their ideas. When you agree with your partner’s ideas, make sure that you fully support them in both words and actions.

This feeling of support will help your partner feel loved.

When you don’t agree with your partner, it’s still important to remain loving.

Don’t shoot down your partner’s ideas or become overly critical.

Accept what they’re saying and suggest alternative ideas if needed.

Follow these tips, encourage your partner to do the same, and you can’t help but have a more joyous, loving relationship!

How can a loving relationship be a source of greater joy?

What will you do for you partner today?

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February 25, 2018January 5, 2018

Lack of money is no obstacle. Lack of an idea is an obstacle. – Ken Hakuta

February 25, 2018January 5, 2018

Eight Tips to Improve Your Credit Score

The first step to improving your credit score is to obtain a current copy of your credit report.

Once you have something to work from, you’ll know where you stand and you can take action to improve your credit and raise your score.

There are many systems and companies out there that’ll advertise a “free” credit report, only to enroll you into other paid programs or recurring memberships.

These paid programs may benefit you, but read the fine print to ensure you’re getting only what you need.

Here are some tips and techniques that can help you raise your credit score:

1. Keep some unused accounts open. Closing unused accounts is a common myth when it comes to improving your credit score.

In fact, closing accounts can actually hurt your score.

Why?

Because a part of your score is calculated by determining how much debt you have versus how much available credit you have.

If you close out your available credit, your debt becomes a larger percentage of the credit available to you and may lower your score.

2. Spread out your debts. You can improve your score by spreading your debt among credit cards even if your debt remains exactly the same.

This is because a credit card that’s almost maxed out is more likely to be detrimental to your score.

Consider transferring that balance to one or more other credit card accounts.

3. Pay on time. This is an obvious tip, but one that’s still worth mentioning. Make sure you pay all of your accounts on time.

Even one slip up may affect your score.

If you have trouble remembering to pay on time, consider setting up some kind of reminder.

You can even set your accounts to automatic bill payment through your banking service.

4. Avoid applying for too many cards.

Your score can be affected if you fill out too many credit applications over a short period of time.

While you can acquire multiple cards over time, it’s just not a good idea to sign up for too many of them at once.

This makes you look desperate for any kind of credit.

5. Watch out for scams. It’s so easy to fall victim to a scam these days.

Some scammers are so creative and seem so trustworthy that even the smartest people can be drawn into their scams.

If you want help with debt consolidation, consider contacting the government. Don’t trust any independent company without lengthy research.

6. Use credit occasionally. Even if you prefer to use cash, you should still have at least one credit card account that you use.

When it comes time to use credit, no credit can be just as detrimental as bad credit.

Chances are you’ll want some good credit eventually, especially when it comes time to purchase cars or homes.

7. Be truthful and accurate. Don’t falsify any information when it comes to checking or applying for credit.

Also, double check your applications for any mistakes you may have made.

Any misstatements will very likely be caught, so it’s not worth the risk.

8. Check your score each year. You can check your credit score once per year without any penalty.

Take the time to stay on top of your credit. It’s such a huge part of your life – whether you like it or not – and it deserves your attention.

With regular checks, you’ll be the first to know if there’s something that needs to be taken care of.

Improving your credit score can save you a lot of money, time, and frustration.

Get in the habit of using these strategies and you’ll see that score going up as time goes on.

What impact does your credit score have in your life?

How can having a good credit score help you achieve greater joy?

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February 24, 2018January 5, 2018

One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar. – Helen Keller

February 24, 2018January 5, 2018

Act Now – Why You Should Never Wait Until Later to Follow Your Dreams

Sometimes you feel like you’ve got all the time in the world to accomplish your dreams.

Yet there are reminders every day that our time on Earth is short.

Unfortunately, there’s no way to predict how much time you’ve got left, which is exactly why there’s no time like the present to make your dreams come true!

Concentrate On The Positive

It’s vital to start with positive thoughts. When you think positively about yourself and your dreams, you’ll begin to believe that you can achieve anything.

These initial positive emotions can lead to a dedicated drive and enthusiasm that’ll help build lasting momentum.

Remember that nearly everyone feels overwhelmed when you’re about to embark on a long journey.

That’s exactly why it’s so easy to fall into negative patterns of thinking, but you must fight these thoughts.

It can be hard to imagine that so much can be achieved simply by having positive thoughts, but it’s true!

The truth is, when you think about something as scary as “I could die tomorrow,” it’s hard not to be drawn into a panic.

But instead of worrying about how much time you and your loved ones have left, concentrate on making the present moment as productive as it can be towards your true calling.

Careful Planning

Once you’ve decided to take action, and you’ve battled your negative thoughts, it’s time to make some feasible plans to get you where you want to be.

Keep these tips in mind as you go through your planning phase:

1. Set realistic goals. If your goal is going to take years, give yourself years. You can’t expect everything to happen overnight.

2. Be specific. Include all the details in your plans.

If you stumble along the way, you’ll be comforted in knowing that you have your detailed plans to help you stay the course.

3. Reward yourself. When you’ve made progress towards your goal, give yourself a reward.

Even if your ultimate goal is far off, it’s fun and motivating to enjoy rewards as you complete steps toward your goal.

Action In Small Steps

One of the biggest tips when it comes to following your dream is to break down your actions into small, manageable steps.

For example, your goal could be to become an airline pilot or you might want to start your own business.

Both of these goals are hefty and have the potential to take years of work and training.

When you first think about these goals, it’s easy to be scared of how daunting they seem.

Instead of resorting to fear, try breaking down these goals into dozens or even hundreds of small steps.

Chances are that each small step is not nearly as overwhelming as the big picture.

At the same time, always keep the big picture in mind.

When you visualize yourself reaching your end goal, it can be an image that gives you the drive to keep going during tough times.

Inspiring Others

Once you’ve achieved your goal, consider inspiring others to reach their goals, too.

Perhaps you have some friends or family members who say things like, “I’ve always wanted to do that,” but they remain working at their dead end job.

Help them take action!

You’ll know from experience that, while it may be a risk, the reward is more than worth it.

Yes, following your dreams is even a reward in itself! It brings you joy in the present and hope for the future.

So carpe diem – seize the day!

Why is it important to avoid procrastination?

How can this bring you greater joy in life?

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February 23, 2018January 5, 2018

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Six Tips To Help You Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be

My desire to succeed is more powerful than disappointment.

Seven No-Worry Ways of Overcoming Shyness

If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it. – Jesse Jackson

Eight Tips to Create a More Loving Relationship

Lack of money is no obstacle. Lack of an idea is an obstacle. – Ken Hakuta

Eight Tips to Improve Your Credit Score

One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar. – Helen Keller

Act Now – Why You Should Never Wait Until Later to Follow Your Dreams

The important thing is to be able, at any moment, to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. – Charles Dubois