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Gratitude is often a difficult concept to understand and put into practice.

Remember how your parents used to tell you not to waste food because there were starving kids in the world?

That was an elementary attempt at teaching gratitude because the goal was to make you think about how fortunate you were to have food on your plate.

Once children get older and start to understand the concept of gratitude, they’re usually bombarded with commercials and marketing ploys for all the latest, coolest gadgets.

The problem is that all this hype and marketing undermines parents’ desire to teach their children to be happy with what they already have.

And jealousy is especially difficult to battle when children have friends who get whatever they desire.

But if love and gratitude is only expressed through worldly things, there is no depth or deeper meaning since things break down, get old, and stop working at some point.

What Is Gratitude?

If you look in the dictionary you’ll find the definition of gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness; basically, being happy with what you have in life.

Sit and think about all that you have – your home, family, health, food, car, and faith – and then consider those people who don’t have any of those things.

It’s very humbling to realize that there are so many joys we take for granted in our life!

Every Thanksgiving families sit around the dinner table and share what they’re thankful for but this practice shouldn’t be reserved for just one time a year.

Giving regular thanks will help everyone in your family appreciate each other and all they have.

Share your gratitude with your family every night during a family dinner.

Say thanks to the cook, thanks to the cleaner, and thanks for everyone gathered around the table.

Encourage older kids to really think about the little things that happened during the day to find their gratitude.

Enjoy the quiet time together and use the sharing opportunity to open discussions about ways your family can work together as a loving team.

Showing Gratitude Without Envy

Both children and adults are guilty of being envious of other people’s possessions or success at one time or another.

It’s human nature, especially since we see what others have and desire it for ourselves.

If you’re ready to eliminate that jealousy and show genuine gratitude, here are a few reminders for you:

Gratitude can be expressed by doing big and small things. You don’t have to make a huge monetary contribution to express your appreciation.

Simple things, such as writing a thank you note, are just as effective in showing your gratitude for life.

Gratitude must be practiced regularly, even during difficult times.

By doing something small but meaningful each day to show your gratitude, you’re forming an important habit which will last for your lifetime.

Gratitude is not all about money.

Making charitable contributions is wonderful but if you don’t have the money to do that, volunteer your time at a soup kitchen, animal shelter, or other charity that touches your heart.

Your time is just as valuable as money!

Teaching Kids a Life Lesson

Young children generally have a difficult time thinking of the big world around them.

Their worlds are often centered on themselves, their family, school, and activities.

They barely have a concept of another town or state, never mind starving kids in a foreign country.

By engaging in activities as a family, you can show your children the struggles other people face and how their own problems or desires fit into the big picture.

Seeing the children who don’t normally get Christmas gifts will help them appreciate their own possessions more.

Listening to the stories of the people at the soup kitchen on Thanksgiving Day will help them learn compassion for others.

It may not be an instantaneous change, but eventually your kids will be more concerned about people, instead of things.

Things can be replaced, but people are priceless.

After all, without the sacrifices of our parents and the gift of positive relationships, there would be no one to share our things with!

Keep Dreaming Big

Gratitude plays an important role in your own personal growth journey but expressing your gratitude doesn’t mean you have to give up on your dreams.

If you want to reach a certain career level, go for it. Want a bigger house, save up.

If your child wants the newest electronic toy, let him start learning the value of money.

In doing so, you will begin to appreciate your life journey a whole lot more.

Gratitude helps you see the true joys in everything – big or small.

Just remember that every gift in your life should be a pleasant surprise rather than a desperate or jealous desire.

How do you show gratitude to those you encounter every day?

How do you feel when people show their gratitude for what you have done?

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In his poem, A Poison Tree, the great poet William Blake wrote, “I was angry with my friend.

I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe.

I told it not, my wrath did grow.”

When you suppress your feelings, both positive and negative ones, you’re keeping yourself from being all that you can be.

Not only that but if you internalize your emotions, you are growing into the very same ‘poisoned tree’ that William Blake wrote about.

Don’t Plant the Poison Tree Seed

When you conceal your true feelings, there’s an internal pressure that causes negative emotions like anger, resentment, fear, and hatred to swell up and take on more potential energy within you.

The day always comes when those emotions explode outward because of the pressure.

When this happens you might say things you don’t mean that may cause deep pain to those you love the most.

The possible negative actions and reactions that stem from your suppressed feelings could fill an entire notebook, which is all the more reason to express your feelings peacefully!

By honestly expressing your feelings you can diffuse the negative energy and immediately start feeling more peace within you.

After all, you’ll feel less stress, tension, and anger when all feelings are put out on the table.

Expressing your feelings constructively will help you speak more sensitively and rationally and see the good within others.

Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Expressing Yourself

Now, openly expressing your negative feelings doesn’t mean you should go around putting others down and it also doesn’t mean finger wagging or accusing.

Instead, find a more constructive way to get things off your chest.

You might find it’s best for you to write your feelings down and send them off in an e-mail.

If you have the creative ability, write a poem or a song about your feelings.

Whatever you do, focus on the problem, not the person. After all, we all make mistakes!

If you think you can’t be that open about your feelings, always express what you are thankful for first.

For example, you can start with a positive compliment then gradually express your frustrations.

If you feel like you have nothing to be grateful for, you’re not looking hard enough.

There are plenty of joys within your life that your negative emotions often disguise.

For example, did you have a nourishing breakfast this morning?

Then you have something to be thankful for!

Have you ever had a rewarding conversation with a loved one that made you see them with new eyes?

Then you have something to be thankful for!

Focus on these positive, rewarding experiences first and foremost, then express your feelings openly and honestly.

With an attitude of gratitude for all that you have, you will feel confident in your right to express how you feel.

In his poem, why did Blake readily tell his anger to his friend?

He cared about his friend and was grateful to have him, so he wanted to diffuse his anger right away.

However, when it came to Blake’s foe, he was not so grateful and, instead, suffered greatly as he became a poison tree within his soul.

Remember, your spirit remains within you and affects how you think, feel, and act.

So seek peace within your heart and mind with the power of gratitude!

How can gratitude bring peace and joy in your life?

How can you show your gratitude to someone today?

Talk about that in the Personal Growth Cafe Community!

Also, as your gift for taking this to heart – and this is profoundly important… to us ALL – go to UnitingPlanetEarth.com/ignition/ and do the Uniting Planet Earth 7-Day Quick-Start Ignition Program… and Allow it to Transform Your Life.

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