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August 11, 2018January 15, 2018

Top 10 Self-Confidence Building Tips

A lack of confidence can affect every area of your life, from your job performance to your personal relationships.

In reality, how you perceive yourself has a powerful impact on how others treat you.

Some factors in bolstering self-confidence may be beyond your control, but there are some very tangible things that you can do as well.

Using these tips will help you reach your full potential as a successful and confident person.

1. Dress confidently. Dress like the person you want to be and you’ll feel yourself become that person.

When you look good, you’ll feel good. Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to go out and spend a fortune on clothes.

It’s better to buy a few really nice pieces than a bunch of cheap ones.

2. Walk faster. People who walk confidently keep a brisk pace because they have things to do and places to be.

Simply quickening your step will help you feel more confident.

3. Keep good posture. People can tell a lot about you by the way you carry yourself.

If you have slumped shoulders and cannot look people in the eye, you’ll leave a negative impression on them.

Keep your head up, make eye contact with others, and stand up straight and tall. You have nothing to hide.

4. Be grateful. Gratitude creates a state of peace in the body. A peaceful mind radiates confidence.

Make a list of the things you appreciate about yourself and be grateful for your past successes.

Tell those you love how much you appreciate them being in your life.

5. Compliment others. In addition to showing appreciation for what you have, it’s also important to show others your appreciation.

If you think negatively about yourself, then you’ll have a tendency to criticize others.

Break this habit by praising others on a daily basis. Seeing the best in others will bring out the best in you.

6. Give back. Contributing to the success of others will not only help you feel better about yourself, but karma will reward you in the end.

What goes around comes around, right?

Volunteer your time to help those in need or make a monetary contribution to your favorite local charity.

7. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Many people keep quiet for fear of saying something silly.

Taking an active role in discussions will distinguish you as a leader amongst your peers.

They will quickly recognize that you have confidence and plenty to offer.

8. Exercise regularly. If you work hard to create a better physical image, you’ll not only be healthier, but you’ll also have more energy.

Both of these things will contribute to your self-confidence, as will the compliments you’ll receive.

9. Sit in the front row. Most of us have a tendency to try to blend into the back of the room somewhere.

We don’t like being noticed. Confident people sit up front where they can take part in discussions without fear.

10. Take a chance and try something new. Learning a new hobby or activity will broaden your horizons and help you feel “alive.”

Anytime you spend stretching your mind improves your overall self-confidence.

Life’s Lessons

The more self-confidence you build in yourself, the more likely you’ll be to succeed.

No matter what task you choose to conquer, you’ll do so with enthusiasm.

Any setbacks you encounter won’t bother you because you’ll have the confidence necessary to continue.

Those who are insecure often find life to be a struggle, but with self-confidence, you can find it to be a joy. Why suffer when you can soar!

Why must you push yourself to persevere?

How can you fill your mind with powerful thoughts today?

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July 15, 2018January 8, 2018

Tips for Overcoming the Fear of Public Speaking

Public speaking is one of the most common fears that plagues us all!

But have you ever wondered why it’s so common?

I mean, we all speak all the time to our family and friends, what makes public speaking so different?

Well, it tends to be a social fear because we don’t want to appear stupid in front of others.

After all, what could be more embarrassing than making a fool of yourself in front of a large group of people?

Fear of Public Speaking Symptoms:

Dry mouth
Racing heart rate
Sweaty palms
Light-headedness
Unsettled stomach
Trembling hands or legs
Stammered speech
Rambling incoherent speech

Do these symptoms of fear plague you when you think about speaking in public?

If so, you’re not alone. Millions of people go through the exact same symptoms as you.

There are ways to overcome your fear of public speaking:

Be Prepared

Making every preparation before the big event will help give you confidence. Planning out every detail will help to put you at ease.

Know your material. If you’re worried about rambling off course, try to have very detailed outlines and notes of what you’re going to say.

Then, stick to the notes when you are speaking.

You should know your material well enough that your eyes are not glued to the paper for the entire speech.

Know your audience. Be aware of why the audience has come to listen to you speak.

If it’s a special occasion, then be prepared for the importance of the event.

This may make you more nervous, but it’s better to know beforehand.

Know the conditions under which you will speak. Check the lectern and microphone ahead of time to make sure everything is working properly.

Check out the room and visualize how the speech will go so you can make your entrance and give your speech with confidence.

Practice your speech as many times as possible. You can practice alone, in front of a mirror, or even in front of some friends.

Recording yourself giving your speech can also be helpful.

Relax Before Opening Your Mouth

This can take an enormous amount of effort, but by following a few simple steps, you’ll find that you can relax and speak as you normally would.

And after a few practice runs, you might even find that you enjoy public speaking!

Visualize the audience as being on your side.

They’re friends waiting to hang upon your every word. If you feel this way your body language will reflect that in your speech.

Don’t hesitate to take deep breaths and pauses when needed.

For example, when you’re called on to speak, take several deep breaths before leaving your chair.

When you reach the lectern, thank the person who introduced you and then slowly count to 3 in your head before speaking.

Implementing these tips will give you time to collect your thoughts and calm your nerves.

You’ll be less likely to start rambling and you’ll start to feel your muscles slowly begin to unwind.

If necessary, look at your notes and prepare what you’re going to say before opening your mouth.

If you’re worried about looking foolish in front of others, simply eliminate the possibility.

If you’ve come prepared and relaxed about the event, then you’re no fool!

You’re an intelligent human being with something special to offer the audience. Don’t forget it!

How confident are you when speaking in public?

How do you feel when speaking in front of a big crowd?

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June 26, 2018January 8, 2018

Confidence comes NOT from always being right, BUT from not fearing to be wrong. – Peter T. Mcintyre

June 26, 2018January 8, 2018

Top 10 Self-Confidence Building Tips

A lack of confidence can affect every area of your life, from your job performance to your personal relationships.

In reality, how you perceive yourself has a powerful impact on how others treat you.

Some factors in bolstering self-confidence may be beyond your control, but there are some very tangible things that you can do as well.

Using these tips will help you reach your full potential as a successful and confident person.

1. Dress confidently. Dress like the person you want to be and you’ll feel yourself become that person. When you look good, you’ll feel good.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to go out and spend a fortune on clothes.

It’s better to buy a few really nice pieces than a bunch of cheap ones.

2. Walk faster. People who walk confidently keep a brisk pace because they have things to do and places to be.

Simply quickening your step will help you feel more confident.

3. Keep good posture. People can tell a lot about you by the way you carry yourself.

If you have slumped shoulders and cannot look people in the eye, you’ll leave a negative impression on them.

Keep your head up, make eye contact with others, and stand up straight and tall. You have nothing to hide.

4. Be grateful. Gratitude creates a state of peace in the body.

A peaceful mind radiates confidence.

Make a list of the things you appreciate about yourself and be grateful for your past successes.

Tell those you love how much you appreciate them being in your life.

5. Compliment others. In addition to showing appreciation for what you have, it’s also important to show others your appreciation.

If you think negatively about yourself, then you’ll have a tendency to criticize others.

Break this habit by praising others on a daily basis. Seeing the best in others will bring out the best in you.

6. Give back. Contributing to the success of others will not only help you feel better about yourself, but karma will reward you in the end.

What goes around comes around, right?

Volunteer your time to help those in need or make a monetary contribution to your favorite local charity.

7. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Many people keep quiet for fear of saying something silly.

Taking an active role in discussions will distinguish you as a leader amongst your peers.

They will quickly recognize that you have confidence and plenty to offer.

8. Exercise regularly. If you work hard to create a better physical image, you’ll not only be healthier, but you’ll also have more energy.

Both of these things will contribute to your self-confidence, as will the compliments you’ll receive.

9. Sit in the front row. Most of us have a tendency to try to blend into the back of the room somewhere.

We don’t like being noticed.

Confident people sit up front where they can take part in discussions without fear.

10. Take a chance and try something new. Learning a new hobby or activity will broaden your horizons and help you feel “alive.”

Anytime you spend stretching your mind improves your overall self-confidence.

Life’s Lessons

The more self-confidence you build in yourself, the more likely you’ll be to succeed.

No matter what task you choose to conquer, you’ll do so with enthusiasm.

Any setbacks you encounter won’t bother you because you’ll have the confidence necessary to continue.

Those who are insecure often find life to be a struggle, but with self-confidence, you can find it to be a joy.

Why suffer when you can soar!

How confident do you feel when you interact with other people?

How has confidence helped you be the best person you can be?

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May 15, 2018January 7, 2018

Conquering Self-Doubt and Becoming More Confident

Everyone has times in their life when they feel inadequate and incompetent, but some of us feel that way more often than others.

Many people are so busy putting themselves down they fail to thrive in life. They stop trying to learn and better themselves.

They become discouraged and depressed.

Do you feel like you may be one of these people?

Maybe your self-doubt stems from some negative experiences early in your life.

For example, if people made fun of you when you were a child, you might doubt your abilities even today.

Traumatic experiences can cause a vicious cycle of self-doubt in your mind.

Parents, teachers, and other children can sometimes unwittingly say things that have a powerful impact for both good and bad.

So, how do you turn things around and stop that nagging voice in your head that says you’ll never be good enough?

Here are some tactics to help you erase that doubt and become more confident:

Let Go of Negative Criticism of Yourself

This applies to both past and present. Don’t let a jerk of a boss ruin your day by simply adding his voice to the tape player in your head.

Realize that he may be taking his anger out on someone else because of his own inadequacies.

People’s negative attitudes speak volumes about them, not about you!

Stifle your tendency to criticize yourself.

By agreeing with those who criticize you, you’re giving them all the power.

Pay no attention to that voice in your head that’s saying you’re going to fail.

If you stop listening, it will get quieter and eventually disappear.

Reclaim your life by believing that you CAN succeed.

Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you.

Prepare Yourself and Do Your Best

It’s not enough just to think positively; you have to actively pursue success as well.

Visualizing your end goal can help you make the right choices, but no one can do the work except you.

One way to overcome self-doubt is to write down your positive qualities.

Make a list of at least 5 good things about you. Every day when you wake up read the list.

Reading aloud will also help you to believe the items you’ve listed.

The positive thinking will help prepare your mind to succeed, but there are other ways you can help yourself achieve your goals as well:

Set reasonable goals. Decide what you want to do within a set amount of time.

Keep your goals realistic so you can meet them. If you set unrealistic goals that you can’t meet, you’ll quickly become discouraged.

Start out small and get bigger with your dreams.

Get busy. Inactive people easily become depressed.

To avoid this unpleasant situation, immerse yourself in achieving your goals.

Hard work will always pay off in the end.

Revel in your success. Self-doubters tend to think they don’t deserve to succeed.

But you do! You deserve a reward for conquering your self-doubt and becoming more confident.

You deserve to be honored for your hard work and perseverance. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Just remember you can’t reach the top of a mountain in one giant leap; it takes many steps along the way to reach the peak in due time.

The same is true of success and achieving your goals.

Taking baby steps and attaining many small successes will bring you the confidence to reach your dreams.

In the meantime, sit back and enjoy the journey to becoming the self-assured person you know you can be. It’s a wild ride, but it’s well worth it in the end.

How can you be confident with your current skills?

How can confidence have an impact on how you deal with your daily life?

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April 4, 2018January 7, 2018

I am confident in my ability to follow through.

I know I can follow through on my promises because I only make promises that I can keep.

Before I make a promise, I check my schedule to ensure it is something I can work in.

If it isn’t, I do not commit to it in the first place.

I find it is better in the long run to learn to say “no,” rather than to over-extend myself with too many commitments.

This way, when I do make a promise, others know that they can count on me to follow through with it as well.

In order to fulfill my commitments, I keep my planner up to date and work on my time management and organization skills daily.

Flexibility is also important, so I strive to include some wiggle room in my schedule to accommodate unplanned events.

Some promises are free from time commitments and only require honesty and strength of character to fulfill.

Since truth is one of my most important values, my promises are always made and fulfilled with honesty.

I consider it just as important to follow through on promises that I make to myself.

After all, if I can’t keep a promise to myself, how can I keep my promises to others?

Even if I am the only one who knows about my vow, I still make it a habit to follow through.

Today, I intend to update my planner with my promises so I can ensure that I will successfully follow through.

Why is it important for you to follow through on your promises?

How can you make sure you don’t over-commit yourself to too many obligations?

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January 22, 2018January 5, 2018

You can determine how confident people are by listening to what they don’t say about themselves. – Brian G. Jett

December 4, 2017

I am attractive, just the way I am.

When I look in the mirror I am pleased with the person that looks back at me. Beauty radiates from my smile.

When getting dressed, the first thing I put on every day is my smile because it is the accent accessory that completes any outfit.

I take care of my body in order to present myself attractive in every situation. I present myself with class out of love and respect for myself.

I spend time and effort on the clothes that I buy and wear. My clothes are always clean and ironed before I go out.

I express myself through my clothing and I am proud of how I look. When I feel good about how I look, I glow with confidence.

My body is healthy and beautiful just the way it is. I am content with my facial features because they make me unique.

I remove comparison from my mind because comparison breeds condemnation.

I refuse to be consumed with thoughts about my appearance because there is much more depth to my character than that.

I give most of my attention to things beyond the flesh.

Daily, there are people who find me attractive and compliment me on my appearance.

I believe others when they tell me that I am beautiful. I accept compliments easily because I believe I deserve them.

Today, I am focused on the beauty that comes from within me. I measure my beauty by who I am, inside and out.

What is your favorite physical feature?

What is your most beautiful personality trait?

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September 13, 2017September 26, 2017

Conviction is my friend. Indifference is my foe.

My beliefs are part of what makes me who I am. My resolve is not swayed by wavering thoughts because my impassioned conviction makes me strong. I am a confident person!

Deep within me, I know what is right for me; I pay attention to these feelings because they help guide me on my path. Doubt cannot shake me because of my internal knowledge of what is right and true. When I feel unbalanced in my beliefs and doubt creeps into my mind, I can go deep within myself through prayer and self-reflection, and I can find truth.

My convictions may not always be the same, but that is because I am fully open to growth. When I listen to the voice of reason within me, I can feel confident about where I am in my life.

Although my beliefs may be different from others, I remain strong in my resolve. I choose not to be closed to new thoughts or possibilities that may strengthen me as a human person – I always will strive to remain open-minded. However, I know – by the gift of discernment – what is right for me and I will live accordingly. I will embrace what is right for me and I will not waste time dwelling on what is not.

Today, I choose to go deep within myself to seek truth, especially when I feel uncertainty, doubt, or indifference. Indifference is not a part of me because I am strong and I am confident and my conviction makes me who I am.

When are your beliefs different from those around you?

How does your firm conviction make you stronger?

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September 12, 2017September 26, 2017

Building a Life Full of Success

Do you have friends or family members who have achieved immense success in their lives and you find yourself wishing you could have that the same? Are you filled with envy toward the people who have everything they want?

Most of us experience these feelings from time to time, but instead of allowing jealousy to make you miserable and negative, you can create your own success. After all, you are the only person who can control how you define “success.” So instead of spending your time feeling jealous, you can spend your time filling your life with success.

Creating Success for Yourself

Many people spend their lives wondering when success is going to magically appear on their lap but, of course, it never happens this way. If, instead, we spend less time dreaming and more time building, we’d be much happier and success will be well within our grasp.

Rather than waiting passively for success to whisk you away, it’s time to create your own version of success. When you are proactively taking steps every day, you have a better chance of realizing your goals. After all, it’s far more productive than watching other people achieve success.

A great way to create the successful life you have always hoped for is to set clear, actionable goals. How do you want your life to be defined? What do you want to be doing a year from now, five years from now, or even ten years from now? What sort of goals can you set for yourself that will help motivate you and keep you going in the right direction so you can reach out and grab what you want?

You will want to make sure the goals you set are attainable. The best way to do this is to start with short-term goals that help you work towards your long-term goals. This will help you move forward and build momentum without becoming discouraged. Besides, it’ll help to keep your eye on the prize. If you set goals that are too ambitious, you will be more inclined to give up before you even get started.

Building a “Success!” Attitude

Your attitude and thoughts determine your success, so make sure they are congruent. If you have some negative or self-defeating inner dialogues, it will be much more difficult for you to achieve your goals and build the life of success you have always wanted. That’s why it’s a good idea to use the power of positive affirmations to propel you forward.

Affirmations can help people from all walks of life reach great success, even if they started out in the lowest of low places. So remember that success isn’t limited to the rich and famous!

Having a list of affirmations on hand can help you overcome those moments of self-doubt, envy, or even anger that you may feel toward others. Affirmations are simple thoughts like, “Each simple, completed task propels me towards success,” or, “I am worthy of great success.” These affirmations help to remind you of what your goals are and, in turn, remind you that you are worthy of all you desire, and more!

What makes you feel successful in life?

How can affirming yourself help you in your daily living?

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