fears – Personal Growth Cafe

I can finally let go of the things that have impeded me from moving forward.

I have a direction in life and I have goals to achieve.

I will reach my destinations and my goals.

All hindrances are behind me; I have let go of them.

I am free now to move into the positive directions I have set out for myself in my life.

I forge on, moving forward without fear or blocks.

I have let go of all of the things that were holding me back in life.

I am living a positive, free life and I am simply who I am.

I let go of the need to be a particular way for anyone else and this frees me.

I let go of the need to put too many expectations on myself because they are a hindrance to my momentum and success.

I can achieve my goals in the time that I am supposed to; I let go of timelines that hold me back.

I let go of pushing myself until I am exhausted; this does not benefit my mind or my body.

I give myself the rest and time I need to have more energy to be a productive person.

Today, I let go of the things in life that are holding me back.

I replace these things with an overabundance of positive energy.

I can move at my own pace and let go of an unrealistic timetable.

I will be myself at all times and let go of being different to different people.

Today I live without blocks or bondage.

How have you let go of the things that hold you back?

How have you looked at what may be making you feel under pressure?

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January 3, 2018

Face Your Fears and Gain Control of Your Life

We’re all human and therefore we all have fears.

Some of us fear death, others fear being alone, and others fear social situations.

If you can think of it, there’s someone somewhere that’s afraid of it.

But fear is a normal part of life! It’s what protects us and keeps us safe.

There are times, though, when fear can hinder us and stop us from enjoying life and experiencing new joys.

When your fear starts to limit what you do in life, you need to conquer that fear.

Does your fear of flying stop you from traveling to visit family members or prevent you from taking the vacation of your dreams?

What about socializing with coworkers after work?

Have you turned down social invitations simply because you were anxious about not knowing anyone in the group?

If your fears are stopping you from taking advantage of the new opportunities in your life, then it’s time to regain control of your life and disallow your fears from paralyzing you.

After all, you can’t live in a bubble! It’s time to start living your life instead of watching life passing you by.

To help you gain control of your life, here are a few tips on how to get over your fears:

First, identify your fears. Get a piece of paper and write down exactly what you’re afraid of.

It doesn’t matter how long the list is, whether it has one thing or 15 things on it.

And it doesn’t matter if these fears sound irrational. No one needs to see the list other than you.

This is about you taking control and getting over your fears.

Next, figure out why you have the fear. Try to remember a specific incident that might have caused the fear.

Maybe your fear of flying intensified because you’ve been on a turbulent flight. Or maybe your fear of dogs stemmed from being bitten as a child.

If you’ve blocked out these memories because they’re too painful to remember, a professional can help you reach those memories and decipher their meaning.

A professional can also advise other forms of treatment, such as hypnosis or the emotional freedom technique (EFT).

Now the hard part begins: overcoming or conquering these fears.

Be patient and be prepared to do some work because, just as the fear took time to manifest, it will take time to conquer.

Take Baby Steps

In the movie “What About Bob?” there was a therapist who had a patient who was afraid of everything.

The therapist used the “baby step” approach with this patient, which simply means taking small steps, one at a time, to gain more confidence and eventually overcome the fear.

What would your baby steps be? It depends on your fear.

If you’re afraid of social situations, slowly start going to different events.

Start with small groups, perhaps in very open environments, then transition slowly into larger gatherings.

The purpose here is to prove to yourself that there’s nothing for you to fear.

Socialize with a small group of friends you already know.

Polish your social skills among people who already know you.

You have less to lose and won’t feel as if you must say the right thing at all times.

If you’re afraid of dogs, take this same approach by visiting a friend who has a dog.

Small dogs are much less intimidating (although they might bark more frequently).

If your friends don’t have dogs, ask your local vet’s office or animal shelter if you can visit.

Fear of flying is much more difficult to conquer because of the expense, but you can look into hypnosis.

Also, some airports or flight schools might have classes in airplane simulators that help you feel like you’re in an airplane.

That type of plan will take more research but will open the world to you.

By facing your fears and finding a way to overcome them, you will open up your life to many more opportunities.

Take control of your life and take action!

What are your fears in life?

How can you overcome your fears?

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July 17, 2012

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF?

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.

You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

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I allow love to calm my fears.

I release things that have held me back. I have no use for them.

Face Your Fears and Gain Control of Your Life

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF?