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October 17, 2019March 27, 2018

There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth. Not going all the way and not starting. – Buddha

October 17, 2019March 27, 2018

Action Strategies to Help You Stop Overreacting

We can often overreact to situations without even knowing it.

How does this happen?

Well, we allow our emotions to take over.

Once you gain control over your emotions you’ll be able to choose better reactions, which leads to better solutions.

It’s important to remember that no one is perfect.

Everyone overreacts from time to time.

It’s when your overreactions become the norm that you should seek a better way.

Consider the following action strategies to help you stop overreacting:

1. The art of not reacting. In order to stop overreacting, you can try using the art of not reacting.

This means that when you’re presented with a certain situation, your goal will be to not react at all.

Instead, you’ll take the time to think about the situation and then formulate your action.

2. Let out your emotions. Let yourself feel your emotions as they come to you and find positive ways to express them.

When you let your emotions build up, they become stronger inside of you.

It’s difficult to stop yourself from overreacting when you’re full of pent up emotion.

3. Take a time out. If you tend to overreact with anger, it’s vital to allow yourself some cool down time.

If you feel emotions building inside you, instead of bursting out, go somewhere where you know you can be alone.

Cooling down will help you to react with a clear head.

4. Write it down. Instead of reacting to a situation at all, go write it down.

Writing it down is another way of giving yourself time to think over the situation.

Later on, once you read what you wrote, you may be able to see whether your reaction was an overreaction or not.

5. Practice relaxation techniques. When you adopt relaxation techniques, you’ll find that you’re automatically more in control of your emotions.

Try deep breathing or attend a yoga or meditation class.

Relaxation will stop your stress and you’ll be less likely to lash out with any negative emotion.

6. Avoid judging. Make it a point to stop judging yourself and others.

Judgments can give you strong opinions that may be unwarranted, which can lead you to overreactions.

In the same vein, when you judge yourself for overreacting, you aren’t allowing yourself to make mistakes, which is a self-defeating attitude.

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

If you find that you’re overreacting to all of life’s situations, it’s time to start with the small things.

Ask yourself why you’re reacting to small situations with such negative passion.

There could be an underlying issue you need to deal with first.

Are you overly stressed?

Is your mind focused on something else?

Answer these questions and solve these problems first.

Just take it one thing at a time.

Change For The Better

Once you’ve discovered a method that works well for you, incorporate that change into your life permanently.

It’s important to expect that you will make mistakes along the way – but that’s okay!

You may still overreact from time to time, but we are only human and it happens.

Don’t let mistakes discourage you from jumping right back into the methods that work for you.

If you’re having trouble changing, remember to take small steps.

It’s quite difficult to become a different person overnight.

Try to bring an overall awareness to your life so you no longer feel the pull to overreact.

Soon enough, you’ll regain control over your emotions!

How can overthinking lead to overreacting?

What can you do to control your emotions better?

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October 15, 2019March 27, 2018

Bring More Joy into Your Life

Do you feel like all you do is prepare for future joyful times?

Perhaps you hear sayings like “live each day as if it were your last” but you have trouble truly taking it to heart.

Experiencing joyful times can take some extra effort on your part.

The truth is, it’s a choice.

We live in busier and busier times and must remember to schedule time to slow down and enjoy life in the present.

Everyone has a unique definition of what joy means for them.

Even on your busiest of days, you should strive to pause and remember what is important in your life, then live your life according to your own priorities.

The Joy Of Everyday Things

We have the ability to find joy right here in the lives we lead now.

While it’s fun to go out experiencing new and exciting things, it’s always best to start where we are.

There are things to appreciate and opportunities for joy in everyday situations.

Consider these things on your quest for joy and fulfillment:

1. Spend quality time with family.

While it’s always a good idea to have meal times together, you can find much joy in just spending some quality time with your loved ones at home.

Some people might enjoy family game night, while others might prefer to talk and share what’s happening in their life.

2. Relax with an activity you enjoy.

Do you skip out on yourself in a quest to do one more chore before bed?

Choose your own relaxing activity and make it a priority.

Play a computer game, read a book, or take a bath.

3. Grab some fresh air.

Nothing brings you into the moment like some fresh air and nature.

In nature, you can escape your inner world for a few moments and realize that you’re a small part of something large and great.

Allow feelings of well-being and joy to wash over you and cleanse your soul.

4. Make an effort to be stress-free.

The biggest threats to a joyful life are the stresses and anxiety that arise in day-to-day life.

Don’t allow these feelings to build up or they can take away from your opportunities for joy.

Deal with stressful situations as they come up so that they don’t turn into long-term stressful scenarios.

Trying New Activities

Once you’ve mastered the art of finding joy around you in your everyday life, it’s time to see how you can add to it by trying new activities.

You don’t need to make major changes, but trying new things and escaping your comfort zone from time to time can refresh and rejuvenate you.

Here are some tips for trying new activities:

1. Start with your hometown.

Look at the different opportunities for fun around where you live.

Chances are there are places that you’ve always been meaning to try out but haven’t yet.

2. If you’re an adventurous person, seek a new activity every now and then that excites you.

You could try rock climbing, horseback riding, canoeing, or even traveling to new and exciting destinations.

3. If you have a family, look for new family-friendly opportunities.

You can even set a date to do activities together with your neighbors or other close families.

There are endless possibilities when it comes to opening yourself up to new opportunities.

Stay creative and brainstorm a large list.

Then start enjoying them all, even if it’s only one at a time.

What brings you joy?

How can you have more of this in your life?

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October 11, 2019March 27, 2018

I live a life filled with clear priorities.

I strive to clarify my priorities and let these guide me in my thoughts, words, actions, and decisions.

This brings me a joyous life because I know I am focused on what is most important to my loved ones and myself.

When my thoughts are focused on my priorities, conflicting emotions of the moment pale in comparison to the big picture.

This keeps frustrations and disagreements at bay in my relationships.

If my spouse does something irritating, I remind myself why I love him so much and the irritant no longer bothers me!

I think, “If this is the worst he has, then how lucky am I?”

My words reflect my priorities.

They are always encouraging and supportive.

Even when I feel anger, my conversations are calm as I strive to find a solution to the situation.

At work, my conversations are productive and conducive to building a pleasant working environment.

My actions are based on my priorities, too.

I plan my schedule and my to-do list according to what is most important, leaving plenty of wiggle room to enable me to attend to anything important that comes up.

This way, my days are always productive.

I allow my priorities to guide my decisions.

This gives me confidence to forge ahead with whatever I decide because I always know the decision is the right one for me when it is based on what is most important in my life.

Today, I choose to reflect on my priorities so I can be confident that I am focusing on what is most important to me, rather than the daily distractions.

Who is most important to you?

What are your most important goals?

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October 11, 2019March 27, 2018

One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us. – Michael Cibenko

October 10, 2019March 27, 2018

I strive to live an extraordinary life.

October 10, 2019March 27, 2018

I look at life through rose-colored glasses.

I take an optimistic view of life and trust that good things will happen.

Consequently, I find that most of the time they do!

When challenges arise, I look for the silver lining and take advantage of it.

Sometimes I hear people say, “I never promised you a rose garden.”

However, I realize that a rose garden is exactly what I have!

Just as roses have thorns along with their incredible beauty, life has its piercing moments along with its joy.

One naturally goes along with the other.

I welcome this diversity and include it into my rose-colored view.

Just because my view is rosy does not mean that I see only what is good and ignore the rest! I accept it all.

Rather than clouding my view, they bring me perfect clarity!

The difference is that I focus more on the beauty and can often find something good in everything.

Take challenges, for instance.

Many times an obstacle gives me a new way of looking at something.

In the end, it provides me with new knowledge and, at times, this new knowledge is exactly what I need to reach my goal.

Today, I intend to keep my rose-colored glasses on at all times.

I hope for the best and I strive to find the silver lining in any challenges that may come my way.

How can seeking the silver lining help you overcome a current challenge?

How can an optimistic attitude help you move forward toward the life you desire?

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October 9, 2019March 27, 2018

I make decisions with the big picture in mind.

I keep my priorities and goals in clear view so that, regardless of the circumstances, I do what I know to be the right thing for me.

Even if emotions run high in a disagreement or the distractions of the day try to take away my focus, I automatically think of the big picture.

I ask myself, “What is most important here?”

In a disagreement with someone I love, I go with the solution that best maintains a positive, loving relationship, because that is what is most important to me.

Whether I am right or wrong about a trivial issue does not matter.

In business negotiations, I keep my primary goal in mind and my discussions open to any solution that works well for both of us.

This solidifies a profitable business relationship.

Another question I ask myself in order to keep the big picture in mind is, “Will this make a difference 5 years from now?”

If a single issue can make a difference 5 years from now, I know that it is a matter of some importance to my life.

Otherwise, I keep it in its proper perspective.

Either way, I make decisions accordingly, letting my priorities guide me in my decision.

I use this strategy every day, even in seemingly small decisions.

Keeping my priorities in mind allows me to choose to live life according to what is really important to me, rather than being blown willy-nilly by momentary distractions.

As a result, I live a fulfilling life!

Today, I intend to keep the big picture in mind and I let my priorities – not distractions – guide me in my decisions.

How have you clarified your priorities in life?

How can you get in the habit of keeping the big picture in mind?

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October 8, 2019March 27, 2018

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but in seeing with new eyes.

October 8, 2019March 27, 2018

I refuse to be average. I was designed to be so much more than ordinary.

I was created with many talents for a reason.

I may not know what that reason is, but I develop them to the best of my ability to help fulfill my purpose in life.

I may not be the strongest, smartest, most beautiful, or most talented person in the world, but I am definitely not average!

I purposely do many things in my life to avoid falling into the “average” trap.

I seek new knowledge to improve my talents and strengthen my skills.

I read and research new ideas to find out all I can.

I take classes, go to seminars, and find mentors to help me bring out my talents.

I am action-oriented. I take action every day to work toward my goals.

When I come upon a challenge, I figure out a solution that can get me moving again rather than allow the situation to stall me in my quest.

I am passionate.

My zest for life gives me the energy and motivation to be the best I can be.

When I choose a path to travel, I go down that path full-force.

I love fully, selflessly and completely.

I clarify my priorities and make decisions accordingly.

I know what is important to me and live without regret.

All these things keep me from being average.

I am unique, valuable, and important to this world.

I know it with absolute certainty and live an extra-ordinary life that shows it.

Today, I plan to step out of the average world, discover a new talent, and take action to develop it.

How are you unique and extra-ordinary?

What are you currently doing to develop your special talents?

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