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April 18, 2019March 13, 2018

Five Steps to Building a Strong Relationship

Have you ever invested your time and emotions to build a relationship, only to see that relationship destroyed in a matter of minutes?

When it was all over, and the dust settled, did you find yourself wondering, “What happened?”

Whether the relationship is in your business or personal life, strong relationships take time, attention, and energy to build, maintain, and nurture.

Relationships are important to everyone. As the saying goes, “No man is an island.”

We need and depend on each other.

Our relationships help define who we are and how we get along in the world.

We’re often judged by the company we keep and our relationships are part of this.

Without relationships, a business cannot exist for long.

Regardless of what type of business you have, you need good working relationships.

At the very least, you need people to do business with!

Forming healthy relationships with your customers and colleagues is an integral part of the recipe for success.

Additional types of relationships include family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, supervisors, mentors, and more.

These relationships add layers of depth to your life.

Each one can touch your life and make a difference, so you want to build and cherish these relationships as well.

Here are 5 essential keys to building healthy, profitable relationships:

1. Be Honest. People respond to honesty.

In a world where people are often faced with scams and lies, honesty is a priority.

The relationships you form with honesty as a foundation will be strong and powerful.

2. Apologize. If you’re wrong about anything or do something that offends or hurts someone, admit it.

Everyone makes mistakes; after all, we’re all human.

People respect you more if you admit your mistakes and apologize. Respect strengthens your relationships.

3. Stay in touch. Relationships require exchanges.

In our world today, we have many options to communicate and improve our relationships.

Face to face is always the best. Enjoy coffee, lunch, or just stop in for a chat.

Not only are you communicating, but you’re also fully devoting your time to them as well.

Letters and cards are a good way to stay in touch, and they remain special in this computer age full of quick text messages and impersonal emails.

Emails are also appreciated, particularly when you give it the personal touch, but nothing says, “you’re important to me” like meeting in-person or chatting on the phone.

4. Recognize accomplishments. Let people know that you notice even their small accomplishments.

Everyone likes to be noticed and recognized.

It fosters good feelings and builds on your relationship when you give someone a well-deserved compliment.

Let your co-worker know they did a great job on their presentation.

Tell your client you noticed how well they’re doing in their business.

Give your child a hug for doing a great job on anything!

5. Take a genuine interest in those you have relationships with.

Don’t just serve up generic compliments from time to time.

Ask questions.

Showing an interest and remembering small personal details lets them know that you’re thinking about them and that you’re interested in their life.

Learn from their experiences. For example, you can ask, “How did you do that?”

Ask about what they’ve been working on.

Inquire about their family, baseball team, or the new puppy.

Relationships add much to our lives.

In our personal life, they can add the richness of friends and shared memories.

In our business life, they can bring us success and recognition.

Strong, healthy relationships are the founding corners of a rewarding life.

Relationships grow over time.

While there are the rare finds where you instantly bond with someone, this is the exception rather than the rule.

Be sure to follow these tips to build and nurture profitable relationships that will stand the tests of time and challenges.

How much do you value the relationships you have now?

How do you show them that you value the relationship you have?

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August 23, 2018January 31, 2018

How to Communicate with your Spouse

No matter how long you and your spouse have been together, and no matter how close you consider your relationship, there are common communication issues that surface in every relationship at one point or another.

Here are four important communication issues to address in every relationship to maintain or recharge that aura of happiness and comfort:

1. How to Actively Listen.

Each person carries a lot on a daily basis.

Consider how many fears, thoughts, resentments, passions, and problems we all carry each day.

That’s why we need a release that both lessens the load as well as analyzes these feelings and thoughts.

Recognizing this need is your key to learning how to listen to your spouse.

Listen without judgment.

A person will not share what’s on their mind unless they feel accepted and safe from negative rebuffing.

Realize that your spouse may want you to listen to them without seeking a solution.

They may want advice, but more often than not, people just need to vent.

If you are actively listening, you will be able to gauge whether they are seeking solutions or just an ear to listen.

2. Be interested and sympathetic.

This is, after all, your spouse and everything that concerns them should concern you.

Discern what you would want if the roles were reversed and engage yourself as the best listener there is.

How to Be Heard.

It can be one of the most infuriating and disappointing issues to face when your spouse just doesn’t listen to what you have to say.

After all, we all want to be heard!

Be aware of your overdramatic attitude or nagging.

Though you may not even recognize that you do it, if you’re frustrated, chances are you do.

Your spouse won’t respect these tactics and they are more apt to turn off their listening altogether.

Ask why.

Tell your spouse that you feel unheard, and ask them why that is. Do not be confrontational, that’s not the point here.

Sometimes people are so wrapped up in their own daily issues that they don’t even realize they aren’t listening to you.

Make them aware and let them know just how much you want to share your thoughts and feelings.

Be prepared to compromise.

Give your spouse some slack by compromising to help engage them more.

For example, schedule a time every night for you to tell them about whatever’s on your mind so their whole attention can be focused on you during that time.

In time, your spouse will learn to listen without an appointment!

3. How to Express Your Feelings Respectfully.

Sometimes when we are angry, hurt or experiencing any other heightened feeling towards our spouse, we are unable to express our feelings respectfully.

The pain or anger speaks for us, and we end up saying things to hurt them and worsen the situation.

Take a breath before you voice your concern or issue.

There’s no point in saying something you’ll only regret a few minutes later.

Have a rough plan of how to say what you want to say without calling your spouse names or placing undue blame on them.

When you do this, your spouse will be less likely to get defensive and more likely to listen and work things out with you.

4. How to Build Trust.

Building trust is something that begins at the onset of a relationship.

Whether you have a new relationship or you have to rebuild lost trust, this bonding requires the right actions.

Be honest.

Above all else, you have to be honest with your spouse – about your intentions, actions, and your daily rights and wrongs.

Trying to hide something in mistruth sets you up for inevitable trouble.

Consider what’s at stake.

Remind yourself about what you have to lose if you do not honor the trust your spouse has for you.

This will help you to act accordingly and will help you build and maintain trust in your relationship.

Wait it out.

Whether you are in a new relationship or are in a long term one that needs repair, building trust takes time; time will reveal whether you are a trustworthy person or not.

Be trustworthy and in time you will win your spouse’s trust.

Communicating with your spouse may not always be easy.

However, if you follow these tips consistently, you will be rewarded with closer relationships, less stress, and greater happiness.

How do you feel when you are able to communicate with your spouse?

How can this bring more joy to your marriage?

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December 26, 2017

What is Co-Dependence and How Can It Stifle You?

Everyone has likely heard the term co-dependence. But what does it really mean?

When you get into a relationship, chances are you depend on your partner for certain things.

This is to be expected and it’s part of the trust you build. However, you don’t want to lose your independence completely.

What Is Co-Dependence?

Co-dependency is a learned behavior that’s usually passed down from other family members.

It is often described as losing yourself in your relationship.

If you’re co-dependent you’d likely cover up the actions of others for relief in the short term, even if it’s a bad move in the long term.

Co-dependent people often don’t listen to their true selves and end up covering up negative emotions with destructive actions.

They are more likely to develop problems with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, and more.

Are You Co-Dependent?

You might wonder if you just have a co-dependent tendency every once in awhile, or if you’re completely co-dependent all the time.

In order to figure out whether you’re co-dependent or not, it might help to ask yourself the following questions:

Do you find it hard to adapt to change?
Are you worried about the opinions of others including close family members?
Do you tend to avoid an argument at all costs?
Do you make excuses for loved ones?
Do you feel lonely or ignored when your loved ones spend time with others?
Do you find it hard to express yourself?
Do you have trouble telling others “no”?
Do you often feel ashamed about your inner feelings?

While your answer can be yes to one or a few of these questions without being co-dependent, you should now have a better idea about how a co-dependent person feels.

Deep down you likely know whether or not you have a true problem with co-dependence.

If you do, it’s in your best interest to seek out professional help. There are counselors available that are specially trained in the area of co-dependency.

How Co-Dependence Affects Your Life

Co-dependence can affect your life greatly and affect your partner and others around you. Of course the affects will be of varying degrees.

Let’s say your partner battles a common, yet debilitating problem such as alcoholism.

When they have a slip up, your co-dependent nature may wish to just cover up the slip up and just hope it’s a one-time deal.

You’d make decisions like lying to others about whether or not it happened, helping your partner sober up quickly, or calling into work for your partner and claiming that they’re just sick.

You can now see how this decision just makes things “better” in the short run. It’s the easy way out and your partner won’t have to face anything difficult.

They’ll be happier in the moment because you’re not causing them any immediate stress.

However, in the long run the problem is just going to continue and snowball.

While it may not be the popular decision, you’ll need to learn how to stand up to your partner and strive for what you believe is right deep down.

Become More Independent

There are ways you can learn to be more independent. In the above example, you’ll know that you need to have the difficult conversations with your partner.

You need to help them decide that they need to get over their problem once and for all.

You then need to decide that you’re going to concentrate on yourself.

You need to know that your relationship with your partner is not all about them and their own problems. It’s about you, too.

Take the time to think about your long-term goals and what makes you happy.

Remember that you must be able to stand on your own two-feet without shame, guilt, fear, or worry!

How do you feel about co-dependence?

How can it affect your life?

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December 22, 2017

What Are Love Languages?

Everyone needs to feel loved. It’s vital to know how you enjoy being loved, but also how to properly love others.

A doctor by the name of Gary Chapman became famous when he came out with a book called The Five Love Languages.

There is a basic breakdown of five different love languages to make it easier for us to identify how to express ourselves to our loved ones.

Once you’ve figured out what your partner’s love language is you’ll be able to show them how you feel in a way that is fulfilling to them.

For example, let’s say that your partner likes to hear the words “I love you” often.

Even though they know that you love them, just hearing the phrase can brighten their day.

But perhaps you thought that you should express your love by buying little gifts.

Your loved one likely appreciates the gesture whenever you show your love, but at the same time it’s not their personal preference of how they like to receive love.

The Love Languages Explained

1. Verbal Lovers. Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as “I love you” and “I appreciate everything that you do.”

For this type of person, you’ll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.

Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.

Don’t assume your partner knows what you’re thinking and feeling – speak up!

2. Time Well Spent. One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner.

This doesn’t mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:

Choose a certain time each day or week where you’re completely dedicated to your partner.

This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and take some away from the kids.

Think of activities you can do together to really connect.

Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it’s the only way you can truly connect with your partner.

3. The Gift Giver. Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts.

This isn’t because they’re greedy; it means they’re visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship.

If you’re with this type of partner, try these tips:

Even if you’re a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts.

Leave loving cards and notes for them.

Don’t give gifts everyday, but give gifts that are meaningful.

4. The Chores. We can’t forget the chores when it comes to a language of communication between partners.

Since there are many things that need to get done around the house, it often causes problems when you try to figure out who’s doing what.

Keep these tips in mind:

Everyone has different chores that they deem important.

Figure out which ones your partner doesn’t enjoy and do them.

Chores involve thinking ahead, which your partner will certainly appreciate.

5. Physical Affection. The physical affection love language can get complicated. Expressing your love physically doesn’t only mean lovemaking.

It involves simple touches too. Each partner will usually have some kind of opinion when it comes to this language:

Figure out which kinds of touches your partner enjoys, it may be a gentle rub of their shoulders or some cuddling while watching television.

This is equally important, figure out which touches irritate your partner.

Get to know your partner’s moods so you know when to express physical affection.

6. The Combination

Your partner will likely speak a certain combination of these love languages.

As your relationship deepens, you’ll get to know your partner better and better.

It may even help to outright discuss the topic of love languages with your partner to better understand each other.

How do you show you love for your special someone?

How does your special someone show his/her love for you?

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July 27, 2012

Can My Life Be Complete If I Don’t Have Someone (PersonalGrowthCafe.com “Daily Personal Growth Walk”)

Think about the word relationship. That means one thing in relationship to another. And that means, it’s all relative. Notice how we use the words relationship and relative in terms of family, some kind of a grouping of one segment separated from the other segments, from the rest of the society or population.

Watch this video to know the answer.

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July 19, 2012

How to Find the Road to Forgiving and Forgetting

Experts say the path to wellness begins with forgiving and forgetting. However, you may very well wonder, “How do you go about truly forgiving someone when they’ve grievously hurt you?”

If you’re willing and able to work on your emotional focus and release any desire for revenge, you have an honest chance of attaining your objective. While the memory of what was done will remain with you, you can still “forget” by putting the past behind you and moving forward.

Follow these four vital steps to be able forgive and forget:

1. Acceptance. The first step to forgiving and forgetting is accepting that you’ve been wronged. You must accept what has happened and find a way to live with it. Acceptance is the starting point for moving your life forward in a positive direction.

2. Healing. It’s important to give yourself adequate time to heal. The amount of time you need to experience relief from your pain varies; each person heals differently.

* If possible, you may want to try to limit your time with the person that hurt you while you reflect and heal.

3. Revitalize your relationship. All relationships, whether romantic or completely platonic, need nurturing in order to thrive. If you ignore nurturing your relationship for too long because you’re upset, it’s likely to wither away.

* Once you’ve begun to experience the fruits of your healing process, begin spending time together. Go out for dinner, hang around your house or just spend a day together at the park. The location is of little importance, but the company is essential to revitalizing your relationship.

4. Rebuilding trust. This should be done simultaneously while revitalizing your relationship. The person that hurt you should be working diligently towards making you feel secure in trusting them once again. Be open to their love, affection, and attempts to rectify their wrongs. If you hold a grudge, you may be stuck in this rut for a lifetime.

* It’s also important to let the other party involved, especially if it’s your spouse, know that it’s okay to trust you. If their mistake was brutal enough, they’re likely expecting you to reciprocate and get revenge. Make an honest effort to reassure them that you wish to reconcile and start anew.

To move forward, you must be willing to let go of everything you once thought was true and form a new reality together. This is the foundation for truly forgiving and forgetting.

But in this case, it takes two to tango. Both you and the other party involved must be willing to make an honest effort. Though it may seem unfair to ask you to make an effort when you’re the one that’s been wronged, this is the price you pay for freeing yourself from those toxic shackles.

People do change. Trust can be restored if both parties in the relationship are willing to work at it. While the healing process may take time, two people who are willing to reconcile and consistently seek each other’s happiness will experience that happiness for themselves and an intimate relationship that will withstand the test of time.

July 11, 2012July 12, 2012

The Mystery of Sex Transmutation – PG Walk: Inside Think And Grow Rich No. 10

Successful men have overactive sex drives. We could say that because they have more power than most people do. our sex desire is one of the greatest urge out there. It’s one of the most powerful emotions that we have.

You have to watch this video and get some ideas about this topic.

These are the links mentioned in this “Inside Think And Grow Rich” Personal Growth Walk Video:

Go to https://www.PersonalGrowthCafe.com and begin doing the “Crash Course on Creating Your Ideal Life with The First Covenant” there.

That’s my $197 video training – it’s yours as a gift to thank you for visiting the site.

You’ll also find dozens of other ways to “learn and grow and become a better person” there, as you’ll see when you visit the Personal Growth Cafe. (Go now…. thanks!)

Then go to http://www.PersonalGrowthCommunity.com so I can personally coach you and make sure you’re applying the insights from this video, specifically to what’s happening in your life.

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Dan Klatt,
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President of the http://www.PersonalGrowthAuthorsAssociation.com

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July 2, 2012July 4, 2012

5-Year Relationship Plan

Lots of people think that getting into a relationship would be cumbersome to some of their plans. That’s why they don’t get into one or they are skeptical.

This video will give you insights about the relationships in your life.

These are the links mentioned in the video:

Go to https://www.PersonalGrowthCafe.com and begin doing the “Crash Course on Creating Your Ideal Life with The First Covenant”there.

That’s my $197 video training – it’s yours as a gift to thank you for visiting the site.

You’ll also find dozens of other ways to “learn and grow and become a better person” there, as you’ll see when you visit the Personal Growth Cafe. (Go now…. thanks!)

Then go to http://www.PersonalGrowthCommunity.com so I can personally coach you and make sure you’re applying the insights from this video, specifically to what’s happening in your life.

Lastly, join the “Personal Growth Revolution” at http://www.PersonalGrowthRevolution.com and help us blow through our goal of improving the lives of 1 billion people within 1 year!

Joyfully,

Dan Klatt,
“Think And Grow Rich Guy”
Author of “the Daily Personal Success System”
President of the http://www.PersonalGrowthAuthorsAssociation.com