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August 17, 2019March 26, 2018

How to Demand the Respect of Others

Do you ever get the feeling that your first name should be Doormat?

Do you feel as if people take advantage of you on a daily basis?

Are you allowing this to happen?

If you responded yes to one or all of these important questions, it’s obvious that you don’t have the respect of others, but that’s why you’re here to learn!

Respect is something you earn.

However, no one deserves to be taken advantage of.

Fortunately, it’s possible to change how others treat you!

Implement these simple tips and tricks and you’ll receive the respect you deserve in no time:

1. Live by the Golden Rule. Most of us are familiar with the Golden Rule.

“Do unto others as you would want done to you” is a wonderful philosophy when attempting to garner respect.

Always treat others as you expect to be treated.

People will tend to reciprocate and treat you the same way.

If they don’t, then you can ease your way out of the relationships over time, if possible.

2. Put yourself first.

An example of this would be telling your friend that you cannot babysit her 4-year old so she can get her nails done because you’re busy with your own personal appointments and schedule.

You have to make yourself a priority.

If people see that you respect yourself, then you’ll ultimately be respected, too.

3. Use strong body language. When speaking face to face with others, portray the fact that you’re strong and important.

Stand straight, look people in the eye, and speak forcefully but not overwhelmingly so.

If your body language shouts, “I am important and I respect myself,” you’ll surely gain the respect of others.

Those people who stare at the floor when speaking, avoid eye contact, and whisper their words are telling others that they don’t believe they deserve respect and attention.

Always remember to stand tall and proud; you’re important and you deserve to be recognized!

4. Speak positively.

In addition to having strong body language, the words you use to express yourself are also extremely important when trying to earn the respect of others.

Learn to speak in positively and authoritatively.

Don’t be boastful, but don’t demean or belittle yourself either.

Leave the impression that you’re intelligent, well spoken and confident.

If you portray yourself in this manner others will treat you the same way.

5. Surround yourself with the right people.

Let’s face it: there are people in this world who are disrespectful to everyone and everything.

No matter what you do to command respect, nothing may work!

You may need to take some time and rethink those you’re spending time with.

They may not be the kind of people who have your best interests at heart.

6. Stand up for yourself. If people are disrespectful to you, how do you respond?

Do you say something to the offending person or do you just go on with life?

People treat us in the way we allow ourselves to be treated.

If you confront the person and voice your opinion and unhappiness, chances are good that person won’t treat you that same way in the future.

It’s not about being confrontational, but a simple “I don’t appreciate how you’re speaking to me” can go a long way.

We all have a desire and need to be respected.

By making some small changes, you’ll be able to open yourself to receiving the respect of others, while learning how to also express your respect.

Use these techniques in all interactions every day to gain the respect you deserve.

How important is respect for you?

How do you gain the respect of others?

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July 6, 2018January 8, 2018

Respect yourself if you would have others respect you. – Baltasar Gracian

May 2, 2018January 7, 2018

How to Gain the Respect of Your Co-Workers

Whether you work for a small company or a large one, whether you are in management or an entry-level position, gaining the respect of your coworkers is a smart career move.

In today’s competitive job market, looking ahead and planning a career path is essential.

Following that path requires respect from your coworkers.

These tips will help you gain more respect at work:

1. Take responsibility for your actions. No matter what happens, take responsibility for your actions – both good and bad.

It’s okay to point out when you do something good.

However, don’t spend all your time bragging about yourself.

It’s just as important to acknowledge when you might have acted wrongly.

If you feel that your actions resulted in negative consequences for someone, always make amend and ask if you can help repair the situation.

2. Avoid taking things out on coworkers. One of the traits of well-respected people is the ability to control their emotions and attitudes.

As you go through your workday, there will be situations that annoy and frustrate you.

Make sure you don’t vent your frustrations on people who don’t deserve it.

3. Treating people fairly reflects well on you. If you have a problem with a coworker, address the problem in a private area or office.

Avoid humiliating a coworker in front of others.

4. Remain calm. The truth is you’ll get bad news from time to time at work.

When you receive bad news, first think about the way you should respond so you can react appropriately.

5. Shouting and losing your cool are the worst things you can do.

Instead, remain calm and gather all the information you need to handle the situation in a composed manner.

6. Take a moment to cool down by going for a walk, getting some coffee, or even just sitting in your car for a few minutes.

Once the news has sunk in, then take the steps needed to get the matter resolved.

Remaining calm on the job is essential to gaining the respect of your coworkers.

7. Give quality information. When you want to advance your career, resist the urge to listen to office gossip.

There’s a lot to be said for an office environment that has an open door policy, but that same policy may also make it difficult to discern correct information from false.

8. Don’t relay gossip. Only pass on information if you know the information is reliable, truthful and necessary for someone else to know about.

Avoid talking about coworkers’ personal lives, especially if you’ve been told information in confidence.

Remember, if a person was standing in front of you and you wouldn’t say something directly to them, then don’t say it behind their back.

9. Give credit where credit is due. When other people have done a good job, make sure to tell them so.

Take the time to speak well of them to others.

Aside from making people feel good about themselves, you’ll soon realize that speaking highly of others will also work wonders for bringing respect to you, too!

Giving credit to your coworkers is honest, fair and it gains you respect. This quality is one of the attributes shared by great leaders.

10. At the end of the day, the most important way to gain respect in the workplace is to respect those you work with.

Treat everyone with courtesy. Don’t talk down to anyone or act condescending towards their thoughts or opinions.

It all comes back to the golden rule: If you treat others the way you would like to be treated, then they will treat you the same way.

How important is your co-workers respect?

How do you show respect to your co-workers?

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July 17, 2012

Creating Effective and Efficient Relationships

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.